Emotional Needs in your Marriage

We're sure you've heard good things about emotional needs as well as negative things, but we feel that there are some emotional needs that are necessary to maintain a healthy relationship. Our emotional needs in marriage are just as important as our physical needs. And when we talk about "emotions" we have to realize it's not one-sided. Husbands, just as much as their wives need these key emotional needs met. 

Now understand we are not talking about putting all of your faith and hope in your spouse because that's: #1 - impossible for any human to live up to and fulfill and #2 - that should be reserved for the Lord. These 4 emotional needs we're going to mention are like a chair with 4 legs and if one of the legs are broken or missing then your chair is wobbly or weak.

1. Communication: What marriage can survive without communication? No marriage (or relationship) can survive without communication. Both spouses need to listen to each other and respond with care and concern. 

"So then my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God. (James 1:19-20)

2. Compassion: Build upon your communication with compassion. We should show our spouse tenderness, forgiveness, kindness and encouragement. When compassion sets the tone of our words, then it will set a positive tone for our marriage. 

"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." (Ephesians 4:31-32)

3. Comfort: Comforting each other means providing a safe place for each other. This just is not about the physical but the comforts of safety, security, fun, joy and laughter. 

"Therefore comfort each other and edify one another, just as you also are doing." (1Thessalonians 5:11)

4. Commitment: Be dedicated and devoted to your spouse and your marriage. Your feelings might change by the minute, but if your commitment to one another stays strong, you'll be able to withstand anything with the security of knowing your marriage is indestructible. 

"Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other." (Romans 12:10 NLT)

Continually pursue these 4 emotional needs in your marriage and watch your marriage grow stronger through every season.